TCF Poetry Corner

Writing and reading about grief are routes travelled by many bereaved people. We read what others have written and we often write about our own innermost feelings, sometimes just for ourselves and sometimes for others to share. We write journals, letters, poems, incoherent thoughts and detailed descriptions, maybe the story of our child's life and death - all parts of our own individual grief journey

Grief writing seems to fall into two patterns. At first we write for ourselves, speaking intensely and powerfully from the heart and our anguished emotions. As time passes we often find we write from a calmer standpoint, perhaps offering explanations, hope and encouragement to others.

Unfortunately, Poetry Corner has been an open site, visible to all, and certain people have taken advantage of this and have invaded the privacy of genuine users, causing anxiety and hurt. For this reason, the trustees of TCF decided that Poetry Corner should be transferred to TCF Forum which is a more secure site.

Postings prior to 30th June 2007 are available below in "read only" format.


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THE SHARING OF GRIEF

I cannot carry this burden alone, the road is too steep and the pain too great.
I shall only get to the top of the hill if I am able to lean on a firm shoulder
whose strength lies in the reality of the feet which bear its weight.
The sharing of grief is the only solution to the crisis that surrounds
bereavement in our age.
To share a person's sorrow is to accept their reality and to acknowledge
the fact that none of us is immune from death.

Rev Dr Simon Stephens, Founder of The Compassionate Friends


Poetry Corner is now available through TCF Forum

Total number of posts in Poetry Corner : 885

885. Paul 23:47:46, 2007-06-09, Poem Title: Whatever, Dedication: Tyler
email  Whatever  
Forever 
hope to recover 
to rediscover 
 
living in the past 
time passing fast 
 
need to let go 
everything so slow 
 
life moves on 
need to move on 
 
easy to hang on 
harder to move on 
 
no need to forget 
always will regret 
 
have to realise 
the need to finalise 
 
yeh right whatever
884. Chris 21:36:59, 2007-06-04, Poem Title: My Grandad, Dedication: My Best Friend
email  With tearful eyes i watched you 
And saw you slip away 
Although i loved you dearly  
I could not make you stay 
 
Missing you more than anyone knows 
Stay Happy 
Love Always 
Chris
883. Marilyn 21:20:54, 2007-06-04, Poem Title: If I Go., Dedication:  For my much loved and missed son Antony
email  This was read at Antony's funeral. It brings me a great deal of comfort. I hope it might help bring some comfort to someone else.xx  
 
And if I go,  
while you're still here...  
Know that I live on,  
vibrating to a different measure  
--behind a thin veil you cannot see through.  
You will not see me,  
so you must have faith.  
I wait for the time when we can soar together again,  
--both aware of each other.  
Until then, live your life to its fullest.  
And when you need me,  
Just whisper my name in your heart,  
...I will be there. 
882. Anne Wade 22:25:42, 2007-06-01, Poem Title: Hurting, Dedication: To my beautiful boys and the child I'm about to lose
email  I sit and I cry, lonely tears in vain 
I'm crying for all of my lost children and the pain 
My two precious sons who never had a chance 
What did I do to deserve this  
My beautiful angel who I lost so young 
And now I go through it again and again 
To lose my little girl but it's not the same 
You see Davy my love she's going away 
Leaving me to live through each frightening day 
She found her true love and it hurts like hell 
Because I know that I made it happen 
I used to think he'd be like you 
He was sweet and kind and mummy's friend 
I never knew then that he'd take her away 
Far across the ocean to a better life 
I wish you were here to comfort me but you're not 
My life's such a mess 
Such a hell to be in 
I can't carry on but I have to 
You see I have others 
My mind's a complete jumble 
Oh how can I let go 
Let her fly away from me just like you boys did 
Leaving me heartbroken..... 
Please boys give me the strength that I seek 
The comfort and solace as I feel my heart break 
Watch over your sister in her new home far away 
Take pity on me too as I try to live on 
One day it will be over and I won't have to think 
Of all my children both dead and alive 
881. Daisy's Mum 18:54:40, 2007-05-17, Dedication: 
Our sweet little Daisy, it is 6 years since we held you tight and told you we loved you. How we all still miss you and love you. 
Now at least you have Grandma and Grandad with you again to hold you tight. Have fun with them poppet, look after each other XXXXXXXXX
880. Lydia Burns 04:42:46, 2007-05-16, Poem Title: Mother's Day 2007, Dedication: David
email  homepage We are just two of many parents 
Whose wonderful child has died. 
We may find support and kindness 
But still we hurt deep down inside. 
 
There are also so many children  
Whose parents are no longer at their side 
They too feel the pain and sadness 
In everything they do in their lives  
 
We walk a path not chosen 
We live each day with grief 
Still the days come and go 
and we feel there's no relief. 
 
We can’t change what has happened 
Although we wish we could go back 
To a time when we could hug our kids 
And talk, and love and laugh.  
 
Our friends will never realize  
What they have added to our lives 
Their our angels who can share our grief 
And let us talk and ask the “Whys” 
 
This Mother’s Day my wish would be 
That we share the love we’ve lost 
With those that need that helping hand 
For kindness and caring have no monetary cost. 
 
Mother’s Day 2007 
Lydia Regina Burns 
May 2007 
879. Jenny Collins 10:08:00, 2007-05-14, Poem Title: Elle, Dedication: To darling baby Elle we will always remember you
email  Elle 
 
Elle, though we never met, 
(A fact that I will always regret) 
I find myself often thinking of you, 
And of all the simple things you’ll never do. 
 
You’ll never get to see the world 
Or go to school with other boys and girls, 
You’ll never hold a teddy bear, 
Or feel the breeze run through your hair. 
 
You’ll never smell fresh baking bread, 
Or spend a cold night tucked warm in your bed, 
You’ll never wish on a shooting star, 
Or know how precious you really are. 
 
And though we’ll never know for sure, 
What your life had in store, 
We can be certain of this at least: 
You will always be loved and rest in peace. 
 
So hush my darling, you won’t cry, 
Let our hymns be your lullaby, 
Sleep well, angel, we hope that you knew, 
That now and forever, we’ll always love you. 
 
In loving memory of Elle Anne Murden (22nd–24th April 2007). 
878. Barbara 13:28:00, 2007-05-11, Poem Title: Our Son, Dedication: To Mark our beloved son who was murdered in Thailand in 2004
email  It was love at first sight 
Your tiny fingers curled around your father's thumb, 
Nestled in my arms you said hello to your mum. 
Welcome son, we'll enfold you with our love 
We'll try and protect you & show you what's right. 
 
As you grew from babe to boy 
Your smiles and laughter enriched our lives. 
Late to walk, early to talk we watched you thrive 
We watched you stumble get up and go on 
We watched you learn & shared your joy. 
 
As you grew from boy to man 
We shared your achievements & uncertainties 
We watched with pride as you left university 
Your stride longer your grip firmer 
A boy no more but a comapssionate man. 
 
We knew it was inevitable that you would go traveling 
You went with our blessing and with our love 
Should I have sent a prayer to the Lord above? 
You'll never be lonely for that we are certain 
As you went on your way we did'nt know our life was unraveling. 
 
There is constant change everywhere 
We see your tears in the rain 
We see your smile in the sun & stars, this eases the pain. 
We remember the love you gave to us all 
And know that your spirit is with us here. 
 
Please stay with us always through all of our days. 
We know with certainty we will meet again 
This helps a little to ease the pain. 
We know you are with us in the sound of the wind 
We feel your presence in the warmth of sunrays.
877. Rogenia 02:25:04, 2007-05-11, Poem Title: I Miss You Jemahl, Dedication: Jemahl My Son
email  Missing You 
 
No words I write can ever say, How much I miss you everyday 
As time goes by the loneliness grows, How I miss you nobody knows. 
I think of you in silence, and I speak your name,  
But all I have is memories, and a photo in a frame. 
No one sees me weep as I cry myself to sleep. 
The Love I have for you is in my heart to keep. 
I will never stop Loving you, I know I never will 
Deep inside my heart, you’re with me still. 
My heart still aches as I whisper low. I need you Jemahl, and miss you so 
But I know you are in Gods precious arms 
And he is protecting you from any harm 
There is a place in my heart. That no one can fill. I love you and I always will. 
 
Happy Birthday - Love Ma 
876. Bethanie 14:40:25, 2007-05-10, Dedication: Millie Jo Carlin my rainbow sister shining way up high x
homepage As the days flutter away, 
Like autumn leaves falling, 
My sunshine has gone,  
Dark clouds are all I can see 
Now you’ve been taken from me 
The flowers have wilted 
Colours seeped away, 
All I can see is black and grey 
Stuck in this monochrome existence 
My rainbows been wiped away, 
Never to come out and play 
To light up my day and make me smile 
But shining up in the clouds  
As dazzling and beautiful as ever 
Some day I shall see my rainbow again 
And I shall be able to smile  
As the colours return. 
875. mandy 16:14:38, 2007-05-09, Poem Title: my son luke, Dedication: to my pookey 21.1.88 - 30.9.2006
email  to my darling 1 and only son,its been 8 months since you was taken from us from me 
I miss your beautifuul smile 
I miss your silly ways 
I miss the way we laughed together every day 
I would sell my soul just to hold you again 
to kiss you again,to hear you say I LOVE YOU mum 
and i know that now ud be sayin dont cry mum 
IM OK. 
your on my mind every minuite of every day 
and for the rest of my life it will stay that way 
My darlin pookey yr my angel,my heart my soul 
I LOVE YOU with everything i am.x 
Im soooo lost without you luke 
My wish is that some day soon ull be in my arms again where you belong.xx 
see you soon angel love always xxmumxx
874. Lu Bilton-Dunbar 13:48:29, 2007-05-03, Dedication: Dedicated to my son Robbie who is missed so deeply every single day. December 13, 1977 -November 4, 1994
email  "Your child's death was one second in his/her life. If you stay focused on that one second, you will erase all the precious memories Your Child has brought to Your Life" 
 
Those words meant absolutely nothing to me 12 years ago. I was engulfed in grief and my only focus was to be with my son. For seven years there wasn't a moment that went by where I did not wish my heart to just stop. Stop Beating!! Please Just Stop!! 
 
The guilt I felt at the thought that someone might see me smile, or be seen out having a good time...they would probably think that I had forgotten about my son. I remember speaking to a mom who had walked in my shoes but she was further down the road in her grieving and after a lengthy talk I was appalled..."I coud never feel like that"...."I could never possibly go on with my life"...and...How Could She! 
 
Then on December 7, 2001 I received a phone call telling me that I had a beautiful little grandson. I made a 3-1/2 hour trip the following morning and walked into a hospital where they put this precious little boy in my arms. For the first time in seven years I looked up and said "thank you". 
 
Joshua Robbie can never replace Robbie however the joy my grandson has brought to a very empty and dark soul is unbelievable. Joshua has resurrected all those wonderful memories Robbie left us with. Now stories are told and Joshua has come to love and truly know an uncle he will never get to meet. 
 
I do know that one day my heart will stop beating and on that day my son will be waiting for me. 
 
For now, I could not picture Joshua's life without me in it. 
 
Remember, "Your Child LIVES" in those who speak his/her name.
873. madge swales 19:57:25, 2007-05-02, Poem Title: forever, Dedication: to my dearest daughter lesley anne who was taken from me suddenly on 11th april 2007as a result of a brain haemmorhage . she was a young 49 years of age.
email  homepage the love between a mother and daughter is a bond of the strongest kind. it is a love of the present, interwoven with memories of the past and dreams of the future. it is strengthened by overcoming obstacles and facing fears together. it is having pride in each other and knowing that our love can withstand anything. it is sacrifice and tears, laughter and hugs. it is understanding,patient and believing in each other. it is wanting only the best for each other and wanting to help anytime there is a need. it is respect, a hug and kindness, it is making time to be together. it is an unconditional, forever kind of love. all this i have lost and i am bereft.
872. Lu Bilton-Dunbar 23:17:08, 2007-05-01, Poem Title: Robbie Dunbar, Dedication: To my son Robbie who is missed so very very deeply.
email  Robbie Dunbar 
One winter day, I awoke to a son 
The most beautiful gift, all rolled into one 
Our bond was deep, not like any other 
The deepest of love, known only to a mother 
 
As a youngster, Mom had to be in sight 
Or Rob would cry and put up a fight 
As a teen, he would come and go 
The places he went, Mom had to know 
 
Sharing, caring, endless giving... 
Is the way my son believed in living 
His dreams and goals, for now a young man 
So often we talked about life's great plan 
 
In a single heartbeat, left behind to grieve 
Wondering why my son had to leave 
No hug, no kiss, no words of goodbye 
How does Mom go on, or do I even try? 
 
I still have your sister, this is true 
We both agree, she can't be you 
For with each child a mother bears 
A special bond forms, which only theirs 
 
Sixteen forever you will be 
Your dreams now buried inside of me 
Never to share another year 
Memories I'll hold forever dear 
 
This indescribable pain of losing my child 
Does not go away, not even for a while 
All four seasons still come and go 
My precious son, I miss you so 
 
All so often I feel the stone 
That bears your name, not yours alone 
For right beside you, will lie your mother 
Then peace and serenity will be like no other 
 
Love Always Mom xxxooo
871. Mar 16:53:11, 2007-04-27, Poem Title: life is just a ride, Dedication: to my son Antony
IN LOVING MEMORY OF A WONDERFUL SON AND LOVING DADDY 
 
LIFE IS JUST A RIDE 
""The world is like a ride in an amusement park. And when you choose to go on it, you think it's real because that's how powerful our minds are. And the ride goes up and down and round and round. It has thrills and chills and it's very brightly coloured and it's very loud and it's fun, for a while. Some people have been on the ride for a long time and they begin to question, is this real, or is this just a ride? And other people have remembered, and they come back to us, they say, "Hey - don't worry, don't be afraid, ever, because, this is just a ride..." And we... kill those people.  
"We have a lot invested in this ride. Shut him up. Look at my furrows of worry. Look at my big bank account and my family. This just has to be real." Just a ride. But we always kill those good guys who try and tell us that, you ever notice that? And let the demons run amok. But it doesn't matter because: It's just a ride. And we can change it anytime we want. It's only a choice. No effort, no work, no job, no savings and money. A choice, right now, between fear and love. The eyes of fear want you to put bigger locks on your doors, buy guns, close yourself off. The eyes of love, instead, see all of us as one. Here's what we can do to change the world, right now, to a better ride. Take all that money that we spend on weapons and defences each year and instead spend it feeding and clothing and educating the poor of the world, which it would many times over, not one human being excluded, and we could explore space, together, both inner and outer, forever, in peace. Thank you very much, you've been great."  
Bill Hicks (December 16, 1961 -- February 26, 1994) 
870. margaret 00:08:37, 2007-04-26, Poem Title: To Where You Are, Dedication: To Ricky
Its your birthday today Ricky, you would have been 30 years old. It will be 2 years July 8th since you left me and I miss you so. These are the words to the song by G4 which I will always think of as my song to you. 
"To Where You Are" 
 
Who can say for certain  
Maybe you're still here  
I feel you all around me  
Your memory's so clear  
 
Deep in the stillness  
I can hear you speak  
You're still an inspiration  
Can it be (?)  
That you are my 
Forever love  
And you are watching over me from up above  
 
Fly me up to where you are  
Beyond the distant star  
I wish upon tonight  
To see you smile  
If only for awhile to know you're there  
A breath away's not far  
To where you are  
 
Are you gently sleeping  
Here inside my dream  
And isn't faith believing  
All power can't be seen  
 
As my heart holds you  
Just one beat away  
I cherish all you gave me everyday  
'Cause you are my 
Forever love  
Watching me from up above  
 
And I believe  
That angels breathe  
And that love will live on and never leave  
 
Fly me up  
To where you are  
Beyond the distant star  
I wish upon tonight  
To see you smile  
If only for awhile  
To know you're there  
A breath away's not far  
To where you are  
 
I know you're there  
A breath away's not far  
To where you are 
 
869. alison bratton 20:28:08, 2007-04-19, Poem Title: a verse from THE WHOLE OF THE MOON..by the water boys, Dedication: to my son robert:1969-2005...this was one of the songs played at roberts funeral
email  homepage WITH A TORCH IN YOUR POCKET 
AND THE WIND AT YOUR HEELS 
YOU CLIMBED ON THE LADDER 
AND YOU KNOW HOW IT FEELS 
TO GET TO HIGH  
TOO FAR  
TOO SOON  
YOU SAW THE WHOLE OF THE MOON 
THE WHOLE OF THE MOON.... 
868. Melissa 13:22:32, 2007-04-18, Poem Title: "They Can't Take That Away From Me" - George & Ira Gershwin, Dedication: To My Yia Yia (Grandmother)
email  This is a song not a poem, but it has been the only thing that has given me comfort since my Grandmother passed almost a month ago. She raised me, and made sure we watched at least one old movie a day. This was our song, and I have always thought of it as poetry. I hope now she is in heaven, and finally got her dance with Fred Astaire. 
 
Our romance won't end on a sorrowful note 
Though by tomorrow your gone 
The song has ended, but as the song writer  
wrote, the melody lingers on 
They may take you from me, I'll miss your  
fond caress 
But though they take you from me I'll  
still posses 
 
The way you wear your hat 
The way you sip your tea 
The memory of all that 
No no they can’t take that away from me 
 
The way your smile just beams 
The way you sing off key 
The way you haunt my dreams 
No no they can’t take that away from me 
 
We may never, never meet again, on  
the bumpy road to love 
But I'll always, always keep the memory of 
 
The way you hold your knife 
The way we danced till three 
The way you changed my life 
No no they can’t take that away from me no,  
They can't take that away from me 
 
 
867. Kerry Young (aged 14) 13:37:35, 2007-04-16, Poem Title: Baby Sister, Big sister is here...?, Dedication: This is a dedication mostly to my little sister, gemma (13, survived miraculously) but also to loved ones whom I lost, She was knocked down by a car on our way to school and since then I just haven;t been the same, I was the only witness and so I can't talk to anyone about it and so I have turned to poetry.
email  Don't cry, baby sister. 
Big sister is here. 
Don't cry, my baby sister. 
And please don't feel my fear. 
I never hold hands. 
But I'm doing it today. 
I'm holding your trembling hands. 
What's that I hear you say? 
I'm here, baby sister! 
Getting pushed behind these people. 
I won't leave you, you're my sister. 
Still I hold your hand tight. 
And don't let go. 
How will I tell my family? 
Do they even know? 
I can't face them, not now. 
Its all my fault. 
I'll tell you how... 
I took you to that busy road. 
Didn't think you would go.. 
I gave you a push, to get you across. 
Never knew what would follow. 
I should have paid more attention! 
I could have lost you for good! 
This feeling to too horrible to even mention. 
If I could turn back time, I would. 
If it had of been me. 
And it almost was. 
I would now be up in heaven, that's where I wouls be. 
But you were different. 
They don't know how you survived. 
This is a sin, from which I can't repent. 
Into a pool of darkness, I have dived. 
So young, yet so broken. 
Don't cry, baby sister. 
 
Please don't cry anymore... 
866. Em Gates 11:50:58, 2007-04-16, Dedication: Freya Barstow, 2 years have passed since you left us.
This day is remembered and quietly kept, 
no words are needed, we shall never forget. 
For those we love dont go away, 
they walk beside us every day. 
Unseen and unheard, but always near, 
so loved, so missed, and so very dear. 
 
We love and miss you so much baby, Aunty Em.xxxx
865. Gills mum, Pauline 22:28:50, 2007-04-14, Poem Title: Looking at me from the inside., Dedication: To Gill - how I miss her.
A message to my colleagues, who will never understand. 
 
As you stand there and watch me, 
I wonder what you see. 
You see me from the outside, 
That’s not the real me. 
 
I go about my business, 
Turn up for work each day, 
I try to be efficient -  
But my thoughts get in the way. 
 
Sometimes you see me laughing,  
At the funny times we share, 
Sometimes you see me happy, 
As if I haven’t got a care. 
 
But as you stand there and watch me, 
As I go about my day, 
You see me from the outside, 
So what else can I say? 
 
I see me from the inside, 
My heart is split in two. 
You go about so happily – 
I wish I could be like you. 
 
For being on the inside 
Of me with all my grief, 
Makes getting up each morning  
Harder than belief. 
 
There are reasons to be happy -  
My family, my health. 
But I’m tired of being an actress, 
I want to be myself. 
 
When I see me from the inside, 
I see a big black hole. 
There’s nothing there but darkness, 
No heart, no mind, no soul. 
 
So as you stand there and watch me, 
Please don’t just sympathise, 
Try looking from the inside, 
Try looking through my eyes. 
864. Judy van Rensburg 14:18:56, 2007-04-14, Poem Title: No Title, Dedication: To Alex who died 14.4.2006 aged 15 years
email  I cant write poetry but just wanted to say that I cant believe its been a year since you left us. Our beautiful, special daughter, we miss you so much, our world is empty without you. The light has gone from our lives, and will never be the same again. All we want is you back with us again 
where you belong. 
 
With all our love, your brokenhearted Mum, Dad and Brother Ben xxx
863. Your mum 22:01:11, 2007-04-13, Poem Title: Six years ago, Dedication: Matthew
It must have been like this 
Six years ago 
Still light at eight o'clock 
When you went out for the last time 
Friday the 13th.... 
...of April "the cruellest month" 
Leaves light bright green 
Birdsong celebrating spring 
New life everywhere 
And the end of yours. 
 
I love you, my darling son
862. ANN MURTY 15:01:31, 2007-04-13, Poem Title: QUESTIONS , Dedication: IN MEMORY OF CAROLINE ANN MURTY 29/01/79 - 09/04/02.FIVE YEARS OF SADDNESS SINCE YOU HAVE BEEN GONE,BUT YOU BROUGHT SO MANY YEARS OF HAPPINESS AND JOY.WE MISS YOU SO MUCH
Will someone answer these questions please......... 
Is there a better place you have been taken to? 
Do you no longer feel any pain? 
Is there really a place called heaven? 
Can someone please help me and try to explain. 
 
I have been left with many questions and no answers 
My heart broken now for the last five years 
I feel empty inside, I exist from day to day 
Yet still forced to shed so many tears. 
 
One question I can answer though,Is that my love will never fade 
That you brought happiness and joy to my heart 
I hope these questions in time will not haunt me 
Till that day, when we shall never be apart.  
861. Bethanie 20:40:17, 2007-04-10, Dedication: For all
A quote i would like to share with all; 
 
'your song is ended, but your melody lingers on' 
 
Bethanie xxxx 
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